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A Celebration of Self Discovery

Charity Danker • 29 November 2023

"Trusting the universe is a promise to provide not only for needs but for the fulfillment of deepest desires."

Feeling good today after a rejuvenating yoga session last night and this morning. Surprisingly, I received a compliment on my form, a proud moment considering most of my yoga practice has been at home. As I continue to refine my balance, I can't wait to master more advanced poses.


Embracing the slower pace of life, I'm learning to appreciate each moment. My focus remains on attracting and retaining ideal clients, allowing me to contribute positively to marriages and individual self-worth.


The universe has been kind, providing what I need at the perfect moments. Consistently recognizing this, I trust that the universe will also manifest my deepest desires. Gratitude fills my heart as I reflect on the blessings I've received – love, friendships, invaluable assistance, and the privilege of maintaining a flourishing, self-employed practice.


I’ve been harnessing the power of being open to receiving. It is not a passive act but an art form, requiring vulnerability, trust, and a profound connection with one's self-worth. It involves acknowledging that we are deserving of the gifts life has to offer and understanding that receiving is not a sign of weakness but a testament to our interconnectedness with the world.


In a world that often glorifies self-sufficiency, the idea of opening ourselves to receive may feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar. However, it is in this space of openness that we invite the universe's abundant energy to flow into our lives. Whether it's love, opportunities, or support, being receptive allows us to welcome the unexpected and bask in the beauty of life's surprises.


The first step toward mastering the art of receiving is cultivating a mindset of abundance. By releasing scarcity thinking and embracing the belief that there is more than enough to go around, we create a welcoming space for blessings to enter our lives. This shift in perspective transforms receiving from a passive act into an intentional, magnetic force that draws positivity and fulfillment.


Gratitude is a powerful companion on the journey of receiving. Expressing gratitude for the blessings we already have opens our hearts to more abundance. It acts as a magnetic force, attracting positive energy and aligning us with the universal flow of generosity.


With profound love, I trust the universe to fulfill my deepest desires and needs. Pleasure becomes fuel for life, and I express thanks for all the blessings I've encountered. A refreshing weekend with the Chicks N Charge, coupled with gratitude for new and returning clients, solidifies my sense of being exactly where I need to be. I appreciate my ability to acknowledge personal growth and accomplishments, fostering a high vibration of love and acceptance. As I envision and move towards my future, I'm grateful to witness it unfold according to my dreams.


17 March 2026
The last two weeks have been a deep unraveling for me. I’ve been letting go of the fear that I’m “manipulating people on a sales call” or “causing harm.” It wasn’t easy. I was flooded with conflicting thoughts. But here’s what I realized: I don’t need to say or do anything manipulative, salesy, or coercive. At all. My issue with sales calls is simple: People are taught to use scripts, “transformational coaching language,” and “unconscious belief” tactics to pressure people into buying programs they’re not ready for. I refuse to do that. What I’ve seen is this: When someone is truly ready for spiritual, erotic, or somatic growth work, they don’t push back on my fee. They don’t need convincing. They eagerly pay to learn the skills I teach. And in the last two weeks? I sold four intensives I was invited to speak at a retreat I didn’t use a single manipulative tactic All I did was: Answer their questions Validate their struggle and their desires Tell them how I could help Assume they were going to buy Ask, “How many hours do you want, and when?” Two intensives were 12 hours each. One was 2 hours. One was 4 hours. No pressure. No scripts. No shame. Just alignment. This is what happens when I work the way I’m meant to work. I’m in true alignment with my values and my clients. I’m attracting people who are ready to invest in themselves without being pushed. I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I’m relaxed. I’m in flow.  And I’m going to keep showing up in my authentic way — because it works.
17 March 2026
About five years ago, I looked around and saw everyone shouting the same thing: Make more money. Make more money. UGH. Yes, we all want money — but is that really the true desire?  That year, without even realizing it, I made $180,000. I was seeing an average of 35 clients a week, with 40–45 on the books. People late-canceled, no-showed, and I was exhausted. I wasn’t happy. I didn’t feel successful. I didn’t even know I’d made that much money until I did my taxes the next year. I was grasping at what I thought I valued: money and success. But those aren’t my values at all. My real values? Freedom. Authenticity. Generosity. Love and connection. Being of service. Empowering others. So I decided maybe I wanted to “work smarter, not harder.” I hired my first business coach. Turns out… she had a one-size-fits-all approach. It was a major waste of money. But I did learn something important: what doesn’t work for me. I often get clarity from the unaligned suggestions people give me. That contrast is useful. I also learned that most business coaches and social media experts have no idea how to market my work. I’m the one telling them what keywords to use. They make big promises and don’t follow through. How many times have I heard, “I’ll personally help you build your funnels,” only to receive templates for chiropractors and medspas? Umm… what? And funnels? I have yet to see one actually work for my kind of work. What I’ve learned over the last five years I don’t want to work with large groups. It drains me. My classes will never be more than 10 people in person, and online I cap at 20. I want to offer individual care, not mass-produced transformation. My desire for freedom, authenticity, and grace shapes how I work and who I attract. I entered a greedy stage for a while — and it blocked me. Generosity is one of my core values. If I’m charging more than I’d pay for my own care, I’m out of alignment. I value a personal approach. I value meeting people where they are and gently helping them move beyond their resistance. I don’t need to manipulate anyone into buying my programs. My ideal clients are ready. They’re eager. They want to expand from desire and possibility, not fear and pressure. I’m not solving problems for people — I’m empowering them to find pleasure, confidence, and self-advocacy. I teach people to have a relationship with sensation and pleasure. To love themselves. To speak their desires in ways that invite connection. My ultimate desire is for my clients to feel as good in their bodies and about their sexual expression as I do. There’s no monetary value you can place on that. People tell me I’ll never be rich. That my revenue will always be limited. They say it like it’s an insult — like I’m a silly woman. I disagree. I am rich in life and love. I am rich in my lack of internalized shame and regret. And that is worth more than any funnel.
by Charity Danker 28 March 2024
As a relationship therapist and coach, I often encounter stories from both men and women who feel victimized by their partners. While some cases involve genuine harm, many examples revolve around self-imposed sacrifices—acts made without the other person even requesting them. I frequently hear about unspoken truths and unexpressed desires. Women often use the word “sacrifice”, claiming they’ve given up so much for their partners. However, when asked whether their partner explicitly requested these sacrifices, they usually admit that no such request was made. In reality, their partners didn’t deny their desires; the women denied themselves. They chose to: Reduce contact with friends to prioritize family time. Forego careers or education due to perceived limitations. Avoid playing favorite songs because of their partner’s preferences. Why do we interpret someone's dislike of our choices as a mandate to change our entire lives? Some women inadvertently limit themselves based on others' preferences and then blame those others. Here’s the truth; no one forces you to change–you made that choice. As mothers, we must indeed need to be loving, attentive, nurturing, and supportive. However, this does not mean sacrificing our individuality. Our music, clothing, and entertainment preferences are a part of who we are. Let’s reject the notion that being a good parent requires suppressing our truest selves.
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